Alcohol and Other Drugs
All participants must be of legal drinking age (21+). Alcohol consumption by participants is permitted, both in-character and out-of-character, but you’re expected to drink responsibly and avoid visible intoxication.
We reserve the right to send intoxicated players to bed. Intoxication during workshops is prohibited.
A limited amount of alcohol will be provided in-game during dinner scenes and at the afterparty. The venue does not allow guests from bringing their own alcohol so please do not bring alcohol.
Use of any illegal drugs during this event is strictly prohibited. Wisconsin has strict drug regulations, under which even medical marijuana is illegal (with the exception of prescribed CBD oil), so even if you have a valid medical prescription for it, do not bring anything but CBD to the venue.
Intimacy
Real sex is not allowed in-game. In-character sex that might be seen by other participants is represented through fully- or mostly-clothed theater-style sex (underwear should always remain on), and techniques for approaching this safely will be covered in workshops.
Real kissing and cuddling may occur at this larp. Please be aware that you may witness such scenes as a participant, but you are always free to leave any scene you aren’t comfortable seeing or participating in. Additionally, it is worth noting that witnessing such scenes may be offensive to your character, and your character would be fully within their rights to put a stop to any intimate scene as long as the Drawing the Curtain mechanic is not in effect.
For intimate scenes that occur behind closed doors and out of view of other players, you are free to use fade-to-black, Ars Armandi, or any other representational meta-technique that you’re comfortable with. Safety and personal comfort are always the highest priority.
Nudity is strictly prohibited. While the situation is unlikely to arise, if a player wishes for their character to be “naked,” they may undress to just their undergarments to represent in-game nudity.
Violence
Physical violence is not a major theme in this larp. There may be some depictions of minor acts of interpersonal violence (slaps, small fights, etc), and we’ll cover how to do this safely in the workshops. Violence, like all play at this larp, is opt-out, meaning that any participant can choose not to engage in it or remove themselves from any scene where it occurs.
Duels
This is a world where duels theoretically happen, but they will not happen in actuality.
In the world of Dearest Debutante, duels are illegal. Nevertheless, due to social convention, characters may feel inclined or obligated to challenge another character to a duel and players should feel free to do so. However, we aim to prevent a duel from ever taking place for practical and insurance-related reasons.
We have compiled a list of possible approaches to duel prevention:
- A lady being courted by one or both of the duellers declares she will never marry any gentleman who engages in such violence!
- The seconds bring the duelling gentlemen to reason
- The lady whose honour is being defended expresses her extreme disapproval of the duel by forbidding it and slapping both duellers across the face
- Angry mamas or elder sisters
- One or both duellers suddenly realise they don’t want to die and decide to settle matters verbally
- A lover of one of the duellers distracts them at the agreed-upon hour by proposing the far-superior idea of making out instead
- Get frustrated with formal procedure, throw aside your “blades,” and engage instead in fisticuffs
- If informed (or requested off-game), a high-ranking royal NPC will personally intervene to tell characters to get their shit together
Please please please do not bring real or boffer weapons to this larp. We really would rather not pay insurance premiums for this shit.